Tuesday, December 27, 2011


What is one of the biggest struggles with natural hair? For me, the first is moisture, but the second is SHRINKAGE. I am 6 months post big chop and 17 months post relaxer. My hair is now collarbone length. My regimen thus far has been:
  • Moisturizing (shea butter and/or Shea Moisture leave in conditioner) and sealing (mix of olive, jojoba, coconut, and castor oils) once a week.
  • Wearing protective styles (flat twist, 2 strand twist, or a combination for an updo) 4-5 days of the week. (When my hair is in protective styles, I oil with my mix every 1-2 days)
  • Washing with shampoo (shea moisture) once a month.
  • Co-washing (Shea Moisture) every 1 1/2 weeks-2 weeks.
  • Deep Conditioning every 2 weeks
How do I combat my shrinkage? After I take down my protective styles, I flat twist in 4-5 twists to stretch the hair.

I do this at night for 2-3 days. I take the twists down in the morning and get a look similar to the initial picture. My hair stretches more each day. This is my normal stretching routine. 

Monday, October 17, 2011

Embrace You.

“That's right ——- Mona Lisa can’t fade her. I mean Marilyn Monroe, she’s quite nice. But why all the pretty icons always all white.” -Jay Z

Ran across this quote on Tumblr yesterday and it made me realize how far the world has come, yet how far the world has to go. Although the well known beauty icons may be white, I don't believe the world is stuck in 1908 anymore. From Miss Angola winning the Miss Universe pageant to the new go natural movement, the world isn't only embracing euro centric features. While this may be true, there are many discrepancies in embracing beauty.

Yes, Miss Angola won Miss Universe, but I didn't see her rocking those tight kinky strands, better known as natural curls. That creamy crack and yaki did her right, in order to stand on a stage of peers that sashayed in with the straight hair they were born with. But, what about the textured strands God gave you? Am I pointing blame at her when beauty pageants are just that, pageants of beauty, not brains? Absolutely not. Do you see any women of short stature? And, lets not forget about our curvy mamas. Are they not beautiful too? Not to mention how the women are put on display like a meat counter.  They might as well be wearing nothing, because the silhouette of her body is more than transparent. Every woman is hidden behind a skin tight dress and a face full of Clinique.

When did natural beauty become so sparse?  In a world where 'bad bitches' are the ones with straight  hair- that came from India- down to the butt cheeks, which may happen to be silicone, paired with the boobs made of the same substance, rocking a face that isn't hers.  Those pictures on the internet capturing the essence of artificial. That facade is only going to last so long. What happens when M.A.C. can't cover those scars of insecurity? Like Jill Scott said: 'Everything comes to the light'.

When everything comes to light will what you look like matter? Since beauty these days comes in packages and boxes, what is beauty? Does society place too much emphasis on beauty? I mean, in reality, everything and everyone is beautiful in some way. Beauty is also relative. What may be beautiful to me, may not be beautiful to you. Can't everyone just be themselves? I don't know if it's possible these days. You are forced to adhere to a standard. Maybe the chipped paint on her toes resembles the chips in her heart. Maybe her bad hair day is the aftermath of a life shattering altercation. Maybe she's been working nonstop and wants to embrace her day off. Everyone has a different story. Everyone has a different life and different priorities. Live your life and let others live theirs. When you are happy, nothing else matters. We could all learn a lesson if we just ask ourselves why we do the things we do. India Arie said:

"Sometimes I shave my legs and sometimes I don't
Sometimes I comb my hair and sometimes I won't
Depend on how the wind blows I might even paint my toes
It really just depends on whatever feels good in my soul

I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be the india ari"

My hair journey until now.

Length Check- October 2011

My hair is about collarbone length now. I started with shoulder length. That took about 3 months. YEY results!

Sunday, October 9, 2011


I am officially 3 months post big chop and 14 months post relaxer. I had a sew in for 2 months and it helped me gain and retain length. I oiled my hair every 2 to 3 days with an applicator bottle, going in between braids and making sure to get to the scalp. I oiled and rolled my natural hair that was left out. I hope to try more protective styles to keep my hair healthy and growing.

The Struggles of A Black Woman

Why does every time I change my hair have to be a big ordeal? I understand getting a few complements, but I can't deal with the sea of flooding questions. Andddddddd, not to mention people reaching their grubby hands toward my mane and touching it. I can't with people. I'm lacking understanding and connection. I do not like being but on display like a circus animal. I am a human being just like everyone else and I would appreciate if I would be treated like one. I don't appreciate being exoticized. I don't interrogate other races because they are different than me. I understand they are different and I can observe from a distance. I just wish I wasn't the oddball sometimes.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011


Sew-in. I'm unsure of the hair I used but I left a little out of my front, sides, and back. Instead of heat I am using rollers, water, and oils to make it straighter. I don't plan on using any heat on my hair. I would like to keep this in for a couple months but I may take it out and re-do it. I plan on achieving growth from this *crossing fingers*

Thursday, August 4, 2011


I'm returning back from my week vacation in Miami and I realized that I am being overcome by the pressure to want long hair again. I could tell I was approached less now that I have natural hair. I don't believe it was all due to the 'nap'turality of my hair, but also the length. I know I am a beautiful woman and a person that doesn't care what anyone thinks of me, but I was starting to feel less beautiful. It's not as if I am looking for something, but the reassurance is nice. When you're used to being called beautiful all the time, when it happens less often it can be disheartening. I was captain save the insecure before, now I'm being overwhelmed with those same insecurities. I am going to do a sew in before I leave for the semester because I keep playing with my hair and I want to retain length and moisture, but now I want it for a different reason. The same pressure to want long luscious locks is not the same in Iowa. I don't know if it was the Miami atmosphere but the yearning for long hair is wearing off. I think if I was to move to a place like that I would be more insecure and succumb to the pressure to change.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Strength, Courage, and Wisdom (India Arie)

I close my eyes and I think of all the things that I want to see
'Cause I know, now that I've opened up my heart I know that
Anything I want can be, so let it be, so let it be.

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Roots: On the Topic of Black Hair

Hair is an object meant to be styled and perfected. Even though many can not leave the house without it looking presentable, they believe that it is just hair. People believe that hair does not make one who they are and does not have any ties to self-understanding or self worth. Hairitage, a class I took in college about African American hair, showed me a different way of thinking.
At first I still had the notion that hair was only for vanity. After discussing important issues in the class, I realized that my hair took me on a journey through discovering my culture. Reading the stories and writings in Tenderheaded: A Comb-Bending Collection of Hair Stories helped further my understanding of the significance of African American hair and the way society has an effect of how African American women wear their hair. In a letter Madam C.J. Walker’s great-great granddaughter wrote to her deceased grandmother, she explains the social context of African American hair:
“But hair still is a very emotional, even political, issue in our community, loaded with centuries of complicated psychological and sociological, well, kinks and tangles. It’s often volatile enough to provoke a fight, a lawsuit, or feelings of shame. That lots of people still talk about “good hair” and “bad hair,” I think would make you unhappy,” (7).
This passage describes the disdain of African American hair in society. It is not considered beautiful and therefore, many women choose to straighten their hair as a means of fitting in or being accepted. In addition to being unaccepted by American society and counterparts, African American women are also ridiculed by their own culture and society. Some African Americans believe that when African Americans do not wear their hair natural, that they are conforming or ashamed of their roots and culture.  All of this confusion around African American hair exemplifies the fact that hair is not just vanity, hair is socially intertwined in society.
Hair is more than what you are born with attached to you scalp. Hair is a barometer of self esteem and an illustrator of society’s influence on African American women and also society’s lack of appreciation of African American culture.Without any hair or kinky hair, African American women feel that they are not beautiful and the culture they come from is not worthy of appreciation. Because the “standard of beauty” is set to long, straight hair, which most Black women are not born with, African American women’s self-worth can be deteriorated and misguided. Since most of African culture is not incorporated into American society, it can be hard to realize that African culture is beautiful and acceptable. African American women have a long way to go to destroy stereotypes about their hair and appreciate the kinky texture of their hair. It is a sad, but true notion that African American women are not beautiful if their hair is natural.
“Welcome to My Happy Nappy Hair Care Affair.
Make yourself at home. Find a seat on a chair, on
The floor. Help yourself to whatever you brought
To ear. But don’t bother me because I’m getting my
My hair “did”. You best find someone to do yours…” (292).

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Braid Out. Branch Out.

Ok. I'm really feeling myself today.
Brand new hair. Brand new attitude. I feel like I can take over the world. Really, I feel as if my hair is opening my eyes to the discrepancies of society.

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Day 3. Twist out.

Everyone has been receptive to my hair. I've only been around very supportive close friends so I'm interested to see how the rest of the world responds.

Friday, July 8, 2011

Work that- Mary J Blige

"Just because the length of your hair ain't long
And they often criticize you for your skin tone
Wanna hold your head high
Cause you're a pretty woman
Get your runway stride home
And keep going
Girl live ya life"

Day 2. Twist out with twist in front.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Day 1. Styled.


The purpose of my blog is not only to document my progress of my natural hair journey but also my journey to embracing my culture and who I am. Becoming natural is only the beginning of my process. I have come to accept who I am and love me for me. I hope you all enjoy!

I finally cut off my relaxed ends!!

MY Black is Beautiful

The more my skin darkens in the sun, the more I glow.
The kinkier my hair, the more I go.
I don't know what society told you but,
MY Black is beautiful.

To my full lips,
My wide hips,
The thickness in body,
I don't know what society told you but,
MY Black is beautiful.

Society has a hold on you if you believe different.
Break free,
Be you,
I'm me,
I don't know what society told you but,
MY Black is beautiful.